Tip #1 Prepare for Love and Create Your Relationship Breakthrough!

Dear Friend,

With this first tip in our 5-part email series, Attract and Keep the Relationship of Your Life, we focus on what you can do starting now to prepare for the kind of love you deeply desire. Whether you're currently single and looking for love – or in a relationship that isn't all that you're longing for – these tips can help you fulfill your relationship goals.

First, Become an Agent for Change in Your Life

One of the most important things you can do to call in a great love relationship (or anything else in life) is to see yourself as a creator – not a victim – of your experiences.

Life doesn't happen to you, it happens through you. In addition to what you actually do, the thoughts and beliefs you hold over time (even unconsciously) influence the quality of your experiences.

For example, do any of these thoughts or attitudes about not having the love you want sound familiar?

“All the good ones have been taken.”
“I'm too… (old, difficult, damaged, fat, etc.)”
“Nobody in my family really has good relationships.”
“I'm just meant to be alone.”

Here's the good news. None of these external reasons are true! You have the ability to start charting a new course for yourself starting today -- by assuming a new attitude and approach to love. If you want to have a great love relationship – and you're willing to put in the effort to have it, true love is not only possible – it’s inevitable.

My Failure to Success Story

For many years I struggled with love relationships. I was alone for long periods of time. Or I would get involved in short-lived drama-ridden entanglements that ended in heartbreak. When people asked the dreaded question, “How come you're not married?” I’d say, “Just haven't met the right guy.” But inside I silently asked, What's wrong with me?

My pattern was attracting unavailable men. I finally realized how I was being unavailable, and started healing my self-limiting fears and beliefs. Then I was able to attract my true love. I met my husband, Dale when I was 45 and got married for the first time at 48. Looking at ourselves as the source of our patterns really works!

Successful Working Women with No Time for Love

I've coached a number of successful career women in their 40's and 50's who've never married and who also wondered what was "wrong" with them. With coaching, every one of them came to recognize they weren't going to be able to “call in” a great love relationship until they created a more balanced life that included space and time for themselves and their new love.

Don’t wait until your beloved arrives to change your life. Change your life in anticipation of your love’s arrival!

Try These Simple, Powerful Exercises to Jumpstart Your Relationship Success

Exercise 1: Identify your relationship pattern.

Step 1: Take several deep breaths. Shift your attention from the outside world to the sensations and feelings in your body. When you connect this way, you're able to access useful information from the deeper part of yourself.

Step 2: Identify a re-occurring pattern in your past or present love relationship(s). It might be:

Being with men who come on strong but then suddenly disappear
Being with women who just can't seem to commit
Having partners who leave you for someone else
Dating people who are happy to receive a lot but aren't willing to give back
Or having few or no relationships.

Step 3: Identify how you helped create a pattern. Ask yourself: “How can I be contributing to this dynamic?” Ask from a place of fresh curiosity, without blame or shame. For example: If you're always alone, ask: Do I choose to isolate myself or hold back from participating fully with others? If you’re with partners who take without giving, ask: Are there ways I deflect attention away from myself or place the needs of others before my own? How am I abandoning or not committing to myself? Recognizing how you contribute to a pattern gives you the opportunity to begin “showing up” differently in life. By making different choices and taking different actions you’ll be able to create a new experience of love.

Exercise 2: Keep a journal. This is a great tool for opening to greater love by recording your insights throughout the week. Why? Because you’re able to see over time changes in your own attitudes and behavior. You’ll be amazed at the discoveries!

Exercise 3: Stay open! You might feel resistance to accepting the idea that you're a source of your patterns. That's OK. Just stay open to what new discoveries come to you. Know that you are starting a new process of creation now. You’re preparing for a greater love in your life.

Summary

By committing to “calling in” a great love, you’re on your way to a breakthrough in your love life. You now get to stop passively wishing, hoping, and waiting for love. You have the opportunity to align yourself with the future of love fulfilled. Prepare for Love is a principle we cover in depth in the Calling in “The One” coaching program. Learn more about this renowned 7-week program and how it can help you fast track your relationship goals. It’s helped thousands of others from all walks of life in many types of circumstances.

Next – Tip 2: Complete the Past and Move Into Your Relationship Future. You’ll learn about completing the past -- so you don't have to carry unwanted baggage forward into your magnificent future!

Next step: Join our Facebook community. Post your success with this week's exercise - let us know what stumbling blocks you encountered or what insights you gained. Like our page! Share your experiences, ask your questions, and I’ll reply to you there!

About Lyndra

Lyndra Hearn Antonson and her husband Dale

Lyndra Hearn Antonson will coach you to get free of inner obstacles to having the life and love relationship you’ve always wanted. She earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology and a Master's Degree in Social Work, preparing her for a successful 25-year career as a psychotherapist. She completed additional training to become a certified life and love relationship coach.
After consciously releasing her own inner barriers, she “called in” her great love and married for the first time at the age of 48. Lyndra successfully coaches others - men, women and couples - to have true and lasting love.

Lyndra primarily coaches by phone giving her the ability to work with clients all over the world. You can learn more about Lyndra and the transformational coaching programs she offers at www.loverelationshipcoach.com.

Lyndra Hearn Antonson, CPCC, MSW
Certified Professional Co-Active (Life) Coach
Certified Calling in “The One” Coach
Certified Conscious Uncoupling Coach