Tip #4 Use Your Intuition as a Source of Guidance in Matters of Love
Dear Friend,
Everywhere you turn there's information about love relationships – self-help books, psychology experts, talk-shows and advice columns – they’re all focused on the topic of love. Then there's the solicited and unsolicited advice of family, friends and co-workers.
If the information was consistent and in agreement, it might be easy to navigate the path to love. But often it's not.
Questions of the Heart
When you have questions about matters of the heart, where can you go to receive the best information? Often the very best answer is going to come from your own intuition. From inside you -- not from some external source.
A key aspect of my coaching work is to help clients recognize their own “on-target” intuition and the ability to follow that intuitive guidance for great results – in love and life.
What is Intuition?
Intuition is sometimes referred to as the sixth sense. It’s experienced as a gut feeling, an inner knowing or a strong hunch that defies logic. Intuitive “nudges” come to people in many ways: sensations in the body, images that come to mind, night dreams, and in the “synchronicities” of daily life.
We all have intuition whether we're aware of using it or not. Don’t be concerned if you feel like you’re the most logical person in the world and can’t apply this intuitive ability. Intuition is like a muscle that becomes stronger the more you use it.
Trust Your Intuitive Guidance
Personally, I experience my own intuition in different ways. When someone says something and I get “chills,” I know they've spoken an important truth. And sometimes a choice just feels right whether it makes logical sense or not.
We can learn to trust our intuition to let us know whether to move forward in a relationship or not. For example, many years ago I allowed myself to fall in love with a man who told me that he smoked marijuana every evening. My intuition told me to end the relationship, but I allowed emotions to override my gut feelings. Because I couldn't be truly happy in a relationship with someone who abused drugs, our relationship ended in heartbreak. I could have saved myself a lot of pain if I'd honored my intuitive knowing.
Follow the Inner Nudge to Happiness
Many years ago, I moved to Vermont for graduate school and fell in love with the place. Friends often heard me say that I’d never leave the Green Mountain State. I had a terrific life. I lived in a beautiful location. I had a dream job as a psychotherapist working with children and families. I had wonderful friends, and I’d purchased my first home. I didn't have a love relationship, but I had the confidence it would happen eventually.
Strangely, as soon as I’d purchased my new home I began having thoughts like, If I were to move somewhere else, where would it be? This was followed by a number of incidents where people mentioned how much they thought I’d like Minneapolis. (I was familiar with the Twin Cities because the headquarters of the spiritual teaching I follow is there, and I had friends in the area.)
Miracles Can Happen!
Over the next two years, I became convinced that my next step was moving to Minneapolis. Miraculously, I quickly sold my Vermont home in a down market, and in Minneapolis found a great apartment that took dogs (a miracle in itself). And within two months I had two job offers!
This is an example of what can happen when we listen to our inner wisdom and open ourselves to working with “the universe” to fulfill our dreams. However, the best was yet to come. Six years later, I met my husband, Dale, in Minnesota. We wouldn’t have met or fallen in love if I hadn't heeded the inner call and moved across the country. He's worth every mile and all the years I had to wait!
Your Exercise
Step 1. Check in with your intuition. During the day – or just for an hour – keep “checking in” with your intuition. When it comes time to make a decision ask: What now? If you’re nervous about making a “major” relationship decision, practice in the more mundane areas of your life by asking things like: What clothes should I wear this morning? What should I eat for lunch? What route should I take home? Listen for the answers that come from your heart or deep inside you. This is great practice.
Step 2. Get on-target guidance in a problem area. Now choose a more challenging life situation relating to a job, relationship, health, family or finance issue. Invite your intuition in. Be open to receiving a nudge, a gut feeling about a direction to take. If you’re open and aware, you can receive surprising “on target” guidance. The guidance can come in many forms: inspiring thoughts, images or symbolic pictures, night dreams, emotions, gut feelings, inner knowingness.
Step 3. Review your success. Assess the results of using your intuition. Did it help or hinder? What about the times you didn’t go with your intuition and used only logic? What happened then?
Summary
I hope you’ve gained a better sense of why developing your intuition “muscle” can serve you well in love and life. The more you trust it, the more you can wisely apply the guidance you receive to create a great life and “call in” greater love.
Use Your Intuition as a Source of Guidance in Matters of Love is a principle we cover in depth during the Calling in “The One” coaching program. Learn more about this renowned 7-week program and how it can help you fast track your relationship goals. It’s helped thousands of others from all walks of life in many types of circumstances.
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Next - Tip 5: Open Your Heart to a Great Relationship with the Power of Gratitude. You’ll discover how you can become magnetic to the good things in life with the simple - but powerful - attitude of gratitude.
About Lyndra
Lyndra Hearn Antonson will coach you to get free of inner obstacles to having the life and love relationship you’ve always wanted. She earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology and a Master's Degree in Social Work, preparing her for a successful 25-year career as a psychotherapist. She completed additional training to become a certified life and love relationship coach.
After consciously releasing her own inner barriers, she “called in” her great love and married for the first time at the age of 48. Lyndra successfully coaches others - men, women and couples - to have true and lasting love.
Lyndra primarily coaches by phone giving her the ability to work with clients all over the world. You can learn more about Lyndra and the transformational coaching programs she offers at www.loverelationshipcoach.com.
Lyndra Hearn Antonson, CPCC, MSW
Certified Professional Co-Active (Life) Coach
Certified Calling in “The One” Coach
Certified Conscious Uncoupling Coach
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